In the workshops that I give each winter, at some point during our 3 days together, I speak about the prison of perfection.
I see so many women trapped there, not only in rug hooking, but in other aspects of their lives as well.
Perhaps there are many reasons, but let's just say that it is an extreme way of validating lack of self worth. Did someone tell you in some way that you were not worthy at some point in your life? I think that is true for most people, and especially for women...told and made to feel that they are lesser than.
In workshops I often see some women "shop their rug" for compliments, asking every single person in the room "what do you think". And ,of course in doing so, receive just as many diverse opinions.
If the great masters were still alive today, they would tell you that the secret of great art is to paint alot. And to paint everyday. And to experiment with your materials over and over and over again. For myself, I hook everyday. I am very passionate about my wools, my dyeing techniques, and my hooking and I love to convey this passion to others.
It would be wonderful if I could quote some scientific study that illustrated all the soothing chemicals that our brains emit while we hook. There really is something so calming that comes over you while you sit at your frame.
Never allow yourself to reside in the prison of perfection for any reason. You will be damning yourself to a maximum security cell on death row...and that is no place for women to be. We've got way too much living and hooking to do !
NOTES about this post: Should you have any questions about this post or any of my prior ones, please email me at email@example.com as I am always happy to help. The Madame Butterfly pattern is one of my original patterns from a recent workshop.